To score with the beta male (average Joe), you must be recognized as a woman he would want to commit to and at least make a real attempt to be monogamous to, unless you are swingers or free love hippies.
The way there is deceptively simple. It does however, require an objective assessment of both his and your social status and sexual market value or SMV. If your target is out of your league, then he is better kept at the platonic level no matter how much he tries to get into your pants. More attractive guys consider themselves “slumming” or “dating down” when they pursue less attractive women sexually.
Don’t be fooled by how the guy looks. It’s his social status and his perception of yours that matters. His income and how established he is in the social circles of your area, with looks (mostly height) being the last priority matters for his social status. So even if he looks like an ogre to you, if he has money, he believes he deserves >7 or so on the media beauty scale for women. What this means exactly is that if you are fat or deviate from the Barbie doll ideal in any crucial way, it doesn’t matter if he nails you to the wall behind closed doors. He won’t want to be seen with you, so you have no long term potential unless you make yourself indispensable to him. The only way you’re going to do that is as a friend, but even then, he’ll probably be 50 years old before he understands your value as a real partner.
So it’s best to utilize the guy who’s out of your league as a social ladder of sorts. Hanging out with him will help to maximize the impact that your beauty, how ever great or small it may be, makes on observers. A strong and well regarded male friend is also protective, and filters out men who want to pursue you just for sex. When the two of you are seen together as friends, other guys around will be more careful how they treat you. Also remember one very important thing: men know men better than any woman ever could. If your male friend tells you that a guy is bad news, then 999 times out of 1000, he is absolutely correct.
This is one reason that it is not just morally wrong to use a platonic male friend as an emotional tampon, or a doer of favors, it is also stupid. If you keep him around just because he wants to shag you, as some kind
of free work slave or something, you’re wasting his potential. Men can be very loyal friends in so many other ways, if you don’t sexually
manipulate them, and keep it clear that your only interest in them is friendship. It should not be a consolation prize. Only do this if you see value in him as a person. This is one reason that a guy who you *would* do, if you weren’t sure it would end badly, can be the best friend you have. Besides, you help each other score.
Women see you with him, and decide they have a good chance, and he must
be worth being around since you’re there. This is called preselection.
It also works in your favor too. Men see him with you, and automatically
assess your looks. It might not make you appear to be prettier, but it will get your looks some extra attention. Also, being seen with a higher status man warns the lechers away. A man being in a visible position of protecting your honor makes it clear that you have some.
If your target is less attractive than you, then you could be in luck if the difference is substantial enough. The reason for this is because betas are always aiming upwards. In practical terms, if you are slim and have medium to large breasts, and a fairly symmetrical face and good teeth, that is good enough for most middle income guys. It’s not until higher income levels that guys usually start to get pickier about real beauty, but this is always in addition to the basic slim, not-too-muscular template.
Wear a little, but not too much makeup, in colors that compliment your
skin tone and your clothing. In lipstick though, the only color is
red. It’s worth the time to find the right red. You’ll need three. A milder red for normal days, a hotter red for days you’re trying to pull, and a rich but not gaudy red for night. For more suggestions, read Anton LaVey’s Satanic Witch. Though many of the tips are a bit dated, many still work just as well today.
If you’re not sure whether to be nice or a bit bitchy, err on the side of bitchy. Men complain about women bitchier than they feel she is entitled to, but in reality they like this. It doesn’t matter if you treat them like the dirt on your shoe so long as you’re prettier than their self assessed status is perceived to be automatically worthy of, and paying attention to them. You don’t want to curse like a sailor and be ill mannered…just bitchy in the way that you’re waiting for him to prove himself to you before you give him more affection. Get him used to a reward/punishment system because this is how he lives in every other aspect of his life. His boss doesn’t pay him for not working, and he prides himself in being a productive citizen who pays his dues. Make him pay his dues in effort and attention for you.
If you outrank a beta in social status, he will work hard to please you, and if he doesn’t have to work hard to please you, he won’t appreciate
you. You’ll seem too easy. It may seem harsh, but you’re actually doing a good thing for him. You’re allowing him to compete for your attention, and allowing him to be the man in the relationship.
The man needs to define the relationship. If you take it for granted that he’s going to be your boyfriend or going to commit to you, you’re putting the cart before the horse. Don’t give up anything, including sex, until he has truly won you.
If he gives up, then he was only in it for the shag anyway. A man in love, or who thinks he’s in love, doesn’t give up. Betas especially don’t let go of the opportunity to get hold of someone who will validate or increase their status.
You’ve been told that the way to get a man to love you is by being
kind to him, but this is dead wrong. You get him to love you by showing him that you can be kind. It’s in the realm of possibility for you to be kind, but he has to earn that.
What you must remember though, is that you have to be a lady to command real respect from a beta…a bitchy lady, who he can’t get close to without working at it, but a lady nonetheless. So if you don’t know how to use a fork, chew with your mouth closed, or dress properly, learn immediately. Find a lady or even better, a Gay man to teach you manners. Gay men have the best of both worlds in that they can be feminine, but they know what a man is looking at, and likes to see.
If you have any pants that don’t go all the way up to your waist, throw them away or wear longer shirts. Ladies never wear such things, and never have. A little cleavage is okay, but only a little. Your clothing can be fun, but it must be modest. You will turn more of the right heads by dressing well than by dressing in a whore costume.
Basically, if you want a gentleman, you must behave like a lady.
Now, men often think they are very slick, especially betas. They are the majority of men in the world, and because they’re men, value some degree of individualism even though they are unable to live that way. Almost every one of them thinks they are smarter than any woman. So they will try to fool you into thinking you mean more to them than you really do, in order to get into your pants. It is a form of sexual manipulation even though they don’t see it as such. They don’t understand that it’s much more difficult for a wifely type of woman to resist temptation than it is for a whore. Wifely type women are actually turned on by their partner.
So before you give in, make sure you’ve scored before he does. Here’s a handy checklist. When you’ve done all these things, then he takes you seriously.
1. You’ve been presented to his friends/social group as his girlfriend.
2. You’ve been presented to his parents or parental figures or whoever his emotional authority figure is, as his girlfriend. There is no substitution for this because a beta male by definition, may have some rebel qualities, but is too status conscious (read chickenshit) to deviate too far from the norm. There is no such thing as a beta male being committed to you but keeping you away from his family to protect you from harm. If you haven’t met mom, the most you can ever be to him is his mistress on the side, but not really a close one. Betas in cultures with a monogamous ideal do not know how to properly wage an affair. He may love you, but you will never be a legitimate partner to him.
3. He allocates a reasonable portion of his income to things for the relationship. It could be buying you little tokens or gifts, or putting money aside because he anticipates engagement or cohabitation. He likes to pay for things.
…and about income. With the beta male, it is best not to lord your income over him in any way. In some cases, this may mean living well below your means until you are close enough that he absolutely has to know your income. Put the extra aside into savings, preferably under a trusted family member’s name, that you can get access to if you need. Don’t lie though. If he ever confronts you about it, tell him the truth: that you’ve put aside money in case of an emergency. Let him be the provider.
Just one thing ladies…If you try these tactics, and they work for you, please don’t use what you’ve learned here to harm any man if the relationship doesn’t turn out well. If you catch someone this way, then don’t get comfortable and then stop touching him. These tips are for women who want happiness, not some twisted form of slavery.
Once you get your beta provider man, keep yourself fit as much as possible,
and take care of him and yourself. If he’s slipping, tell him respectfully but honestly. If you need help doing what you need to do, speak up. Don’t let these things turn into resentment.
As on the job or in his social life, the beta male needs some direction and clear rules and expectations, he needs these in the home as well. If you find yourself nagging about something, make a sign or a list and tape it to the wall or refrigerator or something.
Remember how you got him. This is how you’ll keep him.