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Thin is So In, Right?

  • Posted on February 24, 2009 at 7:24 am

I’d like to point out a discrepancy in the pro-curves argument.

It’s often said that men who are overly abusive in their defense of the “thin is in” preference, prefer women who look like teenage boys. It makes them out to be some kind of para-pedophiles or more accurate, ephebophiles.

If the women the thin-thought-police lauded as beautiful actually looked like teenage boys, that might not be so bad. Teenage boys and teenage girls aren’t so far apart in figure except the basic superficial sexual characteristics. It’s fairly normal and even healthy for guys to enjoy looking at fresh young women who are of newer fertility, once they at least reach the age of sexual maturity, which is usually between the ages of 16-18.

The women these guys often cite as beautiful (as in more beautiful than average to chubby women) however, without makeup, often look like they’ve been beaten with an ugly stick from head to toe. They are not as pretty as thin to average women who don’t get modelling/acting jobs, but also don’t sniff alot of cocaine, drink too much, or starve regularly.

So rather than adolescent boys, these women look like washed up old alcoholics, heroin addicts, or just plain old for their ages, and not in a good way.

Preferences, I don’t knock anyone’s…but let’s be real here.

I’m all for promoting health and fitness, but this skinny thing has gotten way out of hand. There is enough range of preferences that any healthy woman who takes care of herself doesn’t, in the field, have problems finding a partner if she’s open to it and not unrealistic herself.

I’d like all the women out there to have a look at the link above, and really think about what you are doing right now. Some of you are going overboard with your diet. Some of you are taking weight loss drugs. Some of you with legitimate health problems are being fed drugs you don’t know all the side effects of, that may do you more harm than good.

Celebrities, models, and actresses are women, just like you and me. They just do a job that puts them in higher visibility. They are not ideals for you to build your life around. Take care of you and be the best you that you can be. Don’t try to be someone else. Or if you are going to look up to someone as a mentor, look up to your Yoga or martial arts instructor. Look up to the classy older lady who was a dancer in her day, and survives to actually look good at 50+ because while others were sniffing coke, she was working harder, and her bones didn’t start crumbling at 25.

Find real mentors. Don’t try to copy the celebrities. Some of them are alright, but the ones who are, look like you or your mom. They don’t look so perfect.

How to Ask a Guy Out

  • Posted on February 21, 2009 at 2:35 am

Here’s an article from one of my favorite how-to sites. I helped to write it, but others have contributed to it.

Rating Your Beauty

  • Posted on February 14, 2009 at 9:08 pm

Arguments rage throughout the scientific community, between artists, and into the blogosphere about beauty.  At the extremes are those who say that beauty is objective, and that humans are “wired” to respond to it the same; and those who say that it is totally subjective, and that there is no real standard.

I’m somewhere in between.  I believe that there is an objective standard for human beauty that is based on health and viability.  However, there are many “flavors” of it, and how people will respond to a particular type of beauty depends on their culture, experiences, and personal needs.

10 More Useful Facts About Men (11-20)

  • Posted on February 10, 2009 at 4:49 pm

Here are 10 more useful facts about men.

11.  Men need to eat different things than women to feel okay.

Men need to eat more protein and fewer carbohydrates than women.  Women need a bit of extra fat to feed our babies and maintain our estrogen levels, but men don’t.  Being overly fat is more harmful to men’s health than it is to women’s because we’re built for it and store it in pockets under our skin, not usually around our organs.  So along with watching your own weight, watch your man’s.  Exercise and a proper diet is easier to maintain as a couple anyway.

Eliran Amar

  • Posted on February 8, 2009 at 1:43 pm

Eliran Edery Amar is a singer and male tribal belly dancer originally from Bulgaria.  Enjoy! :)