Age alone isn’t the issue as much as it is perspective. A younger guy can have a level of perspective beyond his years, and an older guy can be a gray adolescent. So a woman has to be mindful of the generalities, but also respect her own and others’ individuality.

However, at my age, strictly dating older men isn’t a cakewalk either. A lot of them are divorced (sometimes multiple times)and they can be somewhat bitter about doing it again. They want the gorgeous, younger girlfriend, but they also have less time and resources (due to earlier families) than younger men. Those that haven’t married at all have likely written it off entirely as a possibility. And physically…even with easy access to “Vitamin V”, a lot of them are not keeping up. Literally.

My personal taste has been for men my age to a few years younger than me. No more than 5 years or we aren’t really in the same place in life. I admit to having an advantage in having aged better than most of my peers. As it turns out, men who aren’t looking for a fertile breeder don’t care as much about having a younger woman, but I agree that they will always want one that looks younger.

Sure, there are exceptions, but the general rule is that younger men are not appropriate candidates for a variety of reasons. This article provides suggestions for those who need to deter them without freaking out.

I have freaked out in the past. You don’t want to know some of the things I’ve said to young men who got a little too intimate either thinking I was younger, or thinking I’d be easy, despite being in very modest attire. The idea is to let them know we’re not available, and that it’s nothing personal, and they might be nice boys, but they are boys to us. So it’s not going to happen.

I don’t see why this is such a problem…that an older woman would not be interested in a younger man. That it is a problem is just really wild to me. Since when are we obligated to accept all comers???

Who we attract to us tells us a lot about who we are. For example, I used to have this propensity to attract feminist, single mothers to me. And most of them ended up being a little on the “psycho” side (for lack of a better word).

Because I kept attracting these women to me, I painted the enter female gender with the banner of “psycho,” flakey, and misandrous. The truth, I discovered, was that I was a misogynist and I attract to myself people who would square off with me because that’s what kept me interested.

Then I did some soul-searching, worked out my issues and discovered that i was insecure and that I made up for the insecurity by attracting women with issues so that I could tell them what to do and try to fix them.

Needless to say, having that realization didn’t bode well with me. It was a tough pill to swallow because it meant that *I* was doing something wrong and I don’t like to think that I am the one in the wrong.

When I stopped pointing fingers and stopped blaming women for my problems, I grew in leaps and bounds, conquered a lot of those insecurities and found inner peace with myself. And you know what? I attract a much different brand of woman these days. Why? Because my reality has shifted because my beliefs have shifted.

The same things apply here. You want to jam all men into the mold you have created to help cope with the assholes who screwed you over. And I don’t blame you for it because i”ve been there, done that. But if you want the men around you to change, why don’t you try changing yourself first and see if that doesn’t attract a different brand of man to you. I think you’ll be pleasantly surprised if you truly take this advice.

Because you’re so full of shit. None of what you wrote was true in the slightest. For starters, you’re not ugly if you’re not a supermodel. The vast majority of women are attractive to men. Certainly, there are different levels of beauty, and that applies to both men and women.

But the same rules apply to 10s who date 10s and 6s who date 6s. Ultimately, except for those who really don’t give a shit, people want to be loved for the person who they are. Both men and women are looking for the same damned thing out of relationships, and telling yourself differently is setting yourself up for failure.

If you want to find a man who will love you and respect you, then be honest with him from the start. If you’re 30 years old and have had 30 partners, then tell him you’ve had 30 partners. If he’s a prude or an idiot, he’ll think you a slut and leave, but in that case… Why would you want him to stay?

The questions aren’t shit tests, they’re ways to see if a woman is the right woman for you. If I’m heavily religious and don’t believe people should have sex before marriage, then I will be asking if you’ve had sex before, and if the number is high, I will (rightfully) conclude that you aren’t the woman for me. If you lie and give a small number, then all you’re doing is creating a relationship founded on lies, which is doomed to failure – aka divorce. And you wonder why the divorce rate is so high?

Here’s the only tip women need to know: Be yourself and be honest (although don’t dump it all on him in one go.) If he’s the right man for you, then he will accept this, because it *is* what makes you the person you are. You *want* guys who won’t accept this to run away, because you won’t waste your time with a man who will never accept you.

P.S. I loled really hard at #4. What you wrote is the definition of friends with benefits. Neither of you are interested in a relationship with the person, but they’re good enough to fuck. Everyone has physical needs (men and women) and this is a good way to get it out with a single person rather than random people (hence lower risk of disease.) Any person who agrees to a FWB relationship, wanting something more, and hoping it will develop into something more is an idiot, plain and simple.

Guys go after older women because they think we’re easier because the television told them so. I don’t feel obligated to make it easier for guys of any age to exploit me, least of all, guys who are young enough to be my son.

First of all, it’s not unusual at ALL for man to be attracted to and WANT TO DATE a girl 5 years older than him. In fact, when most men are ready to settle down, they PREFER an older woman because they are less apt to get games out of them and they are more apt to find a stronger, more confident woman.

The advice you give in this article, however, is teaching older women how to do the exact thing that guys are trying to avoid by going after older women.