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Going Natural Makes You More Attractive

  • Posted on December 26, 2009 at 10:02 am

While browsing around, I found an interesting hub on the type of men a woman attracts when she’s wearing her hair in its natural texture.  Apparently men do recognize the difference between healthy natural hair and mediocre processed hair.

According to the writer and commenters, going natural makes you more attractive to older men and men of a wider variety of ethnicities.  It doesn’t however, make you more attractive to the masses in an obviously sexual way.  So those who need to maintain a certain image for the sake of modelling or public relations should tread carefully before doing a Tymoshenko.  Take care that like her, your style is symbolic and iconic.

Considering the damage done to one’s scalp, skin, and immune system by the use of relaxers and other chemicals associated with superficial beauty maintenance, I can understand very well why natural is better to men with finer tastes.  If you’re not ready to go there though, you may want to just consider less harmful means of getting the job done.

A good hairweave or braid fusion allows you to preserve your natural hair while having a straight or wavy look.  It’s ornamentation, rather than chemical alteration.  Though it is technically fake, and will put off the few guys who are repelled by fake women, it’s less harmful.  You won’t lose your fresh glow or ruin your kidneys from it any more than you would from a wig.

What Is Game for Girls?

  • Posted on December 7, 2009 at 12:33 pm

Recent comments have reminded me that I never did actually define game for girls or “girl game”.  I’ll give it a shot.  Mind you, it’s a work in progress.  Some of this comes from thoughts provoked by Obsidian.  Comments are welcome.

Girl Game Is…

…a strategy for securing the sort of mate and/or sexual experiences one desires.

In order to do this one must:

1.  Be aware of the mate and sexual market (which are not the same for non sex workers anymore), and one’s place in it.

This is difficult these days because most of us have an unreal view of our worth, so we’re going to have trouble placing ourselves in the social hierarchy.  Most people allow others to place them, which isn’t such a bad thing for the majority in a functional society because empathy is necessary for human relationships.  When the society becomes dysfunctional and unreal though, one has to become a social outlier in order to be functionally “normal”.

2.  As of the new millenium, one must understand how societal changes made in the past, affect one’s prospects today.

These changes include, but are not limited to:

Women becoming recognized as part of the workforce and citizenry.  We always were, just that after slavery was no longer a legal institution, women demanded that their role be upgraded along with their male counterparts who were once slaves or near slaves.  This, in part, led to the over romanticization of the working woman (outside the home or family sphere), to the point that it became an ideal.  Women in the west now generally strive to be good employees rather than a more realistic contractor or family based entrepreneur.  So it was good to be recognized as part of the workforce, but bad that for some reason this became held in higher value than being a mother who could work at or closer to home.

Equal right to education for women.  Again, good thing, but because of the above, instead of working as a programmer at home or part time as a nurse at the local clinic while the kids are in school making around a grand a month, we commute for an hour to make 3K a month, only to spend 2K of it on the expenses involved with working that far from home.  Smrt duh-hee?

Wider availability of birth control.  Another good thing that didn’t quite do what it should have.  Smart women use it, but throngs of stupid women are still churning out babies they’re incapable of raising well, and their stupid male counterparts unwilling to support.  So now we have an overabundance of excess people who can’t really function in relationships.  They’ve never seen a stable relationship, and are therefore very unlikely to have one.

Well, actually about that, we’re already entering the implosion phase.  Many men are beginning to opt out.  So I guess you can make casual sex trendy, but you can’t make people have it if they don’t want to.  It’s a cost vs. benefit thing.

Divorce and custody laws favoring the ex wife or girlfriend regardless of whether or not they’re the most fitting parent, or even mentally stable.  Gender shouldn’t even be a factor when talking about parental suitability, but it is.  For all the so-called equality, courts still treat mothers as if they’re by default, the better parent.  Sad.

3.  Accept these changes, and learn to successfully survive and thrive despite the majority.

One must turn the situation to their advantage.  It will take strength to do it, but Nature is on your side…and She always wins.

Well, that’s the basics.  Any thoughts?