The Slut Rules: Prelude

Not every woman was cut out for marriage, and not every woman who is, gets lucky.  As one of the unlucky, who found the perfect (for me) husband in all ways except one, I faced a choice of living a completely celibate life, leaving my husband, or becoming technically, a slut.  I chose the latter.

Now, I’m neither a moralist nor a moral relativist.  I do not believe that there is an absolute morality, but I do believe that because of this, humans have a responsibility to decide what kind of world we want to live in, and make it so.  For this, we cannot afford to allow ourselves to muddy the lines between what is right or most right, and what is wrong.  When a loving woman who would be a good wife, finds herself devoid of options, something has gone wrong.  What she does to cope with that situation has to be tempered by consideration of what the lesser evils would be.

The goal should ultimately be balance.  Ideas of justice and fairness must be taken into account.  There also has to be an acceptance of personal responsibility for one’s actions and the possible consequences that may extend beyond one’s self.  If the consequences are more positive than negative, then one can justify one’s actions at least to one’s self, even if their society brands them as bad.

With those things in mind, I begin the project of compiling a list of rules and advice for the modern slut.  We’re about reality here.

How a Woman Becomes a Slut: Type 1, and Type 2

As opposed to times past, the modern slut does not become so merely due to class or economic situation.  She gets there mainly two ways.  One way is due to cultural/social programming that herds her towards premarital or extramarital sex because it is trendy.  “Everybody is doing it.”  She is convinced that her sexual availability is necessary or at least crucial in gaining any positive male attention at all.  She may even think that it is necessary in order to convince a man to commit to or marry her.  This is the Type 1 slut: the social slut.

The second way women become sluts today is situationalThe Type 2 slut is sexually “deviant” (in a good way) or finds herself in a situation where her only suitable options for even minimal sexual and romantic expression lie outside of societal norms.  She doesn’t even have the same options as the social slut, and probably isn’t even suffering from similar delusions.

This guide is mostly for Type 2’s, but Type 1’s can likely get something good out of it so long as they understand its purpose.

This is not an attempt to reclaim the word “slut” and render it non durogatory.  This is an attempt, in light of the current social situation in modern countries with regards to relationships, to bring some balance into the lives of women for whom something has gone wrong.  It may even help to make things right again, and to help modern society move past the madonna/whore or madonna=whore illusions that are rendering more of us sluts than need be.  Type 2 sluts are the only ones there should be, in a civilized society.  All other women engaging in premarital or extramarital sex should be whores.

There is nothing wrong with being a whore.  Even the Bible backs ethical prostitution.  There is something wrong though, when there becomes a shortage of true, loyal wives because the would-bes are either being convinced to waste their talents on the unappreciative, or cast aside because sluttiness is in fashion.

G4G is about to get very, very real.

About Mamasan

I'm a multifaith spiritual counselor with lots of experience assisting people with improving their relationships. Feel free to comment on the site or contact me if you have an issue you'd rather discuss privately.

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