The Slut Rules, Rule #7: Do not promote your lifestyle to non sluts.

What you view as a fairytale does come true for some.  You do not want to ruin someone’s shot at “happily ever after” by convincing her that it is impossible.  Some men do appreciate a good woman, and won’t trade one in for a new model when she’s old.

So don’t promote the way that you cope with your bad luck or special circumstances as a lifestyle for others to emulate.  You do what you need to do, and help others who have to do the same.  Don’t drip poison into the ears of women who are married or engaged.

One good thing you can do for married women, and women on that track is stress the importance of trust, nurturing, and supportiveness in relationships.  A successful slut who has turned her tragedy into triumph by either securing a long term affair or settling into a genuinely peaceful and positive catlady zen when her sex drive is gone, can use her experience to help couples to have a better sex life, or help widows and divorcees to survive the loneliness.  She should not use her experiences to recruit.

This is especially important to those of us raising children alone or in broken relationships.  Our kids should understand that our situation is not ideal.  It is not okay for our daughters to have casual sex, or for our sons to be indecisive knuckleheads who validate the bitter bunch’s claims that “all men are dogs”.  Find them a mentor couple whose marriage has stood the test of time.  It’s as important for them to understand what doing things the right way looks like, as it is for them to be able to survive and thrive despite things going wrong.

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I'm a multifaith spiritual counselor with lots of experience assisting people with improving their relationships. Feel free to comment on the site or contact me if you have an issue you'd rather discuss privately.

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