Swirling Caution: Closet Racists in Interracial Relationships

You think you’re smart, right?  You know all the signs of a jerk or a sicko, and you’re watchful when you meet this guy.  He passes all of your filters successfully, and seems like a real prize…until a month or later in the relationship.  Suddenly, red flags start popping up everywhere, and you wonder how you missed that this guy was crazy. You didn’t miss any signs.  He is not necessarily a narcissist or borderline.  He doesn’t behave this way…

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The Slut Rules, Rule #5: Mind the socioeconomic class divisions.

This is a difficult rule for women because we are generally status climbers.  It needs to be said that status climbing is a luxury that only those on the marriage track in stable societies can afford.  This is because in a stable society, males will be allowed to perform their duties of filtering and possibly even selecting mates for their daughters and female relatives.  It’s not a perfect system, but it works out well most of the time.  When a…

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