Almost everybody single or poly or on the d/l tried them. Most of the women had the same bad experiences, just some more or some less. A scant few had got lucky and had good experiences. Yet no matter how the companies tried to play with who initiated or how, and whether or not someone could report bad behavior after the fact, nothing could be done about the raw material. The same guys using the dating apps are the same…
For easy reference, I’m going to list some abusive behavior that is viewed as common in women, but isn’t. Healthy women don’t do these things. Normal women who are reasonably functioning don’t do these things. It just gets excused a lot in unhealthy, dysfunctional, abusive women because people, quite frankly, value women more than men in many ways. Women have also done a very good job in maintaining a certain cronieism based privilege, that is not as illusory as certain…
Many women today have lost touch with reality. On the one hand, we say that emotional/psychological abuse can be just as or even more damaging than physical abuse, which is true. On the other hand, when the receiver of emotional abuse is male, we minimize it and say that he should learn to “take it like a man”. If he strikes back verbally, he gets accused of emotional abuse, and if he strikes back physically, he gets thrown in jail.…
You think you’re smart, right? You know all the signs of a jerk or a sicko, and you’re watchful when you meet this guy. He passes all of your filters successfully, and seems like a real prize…until a month or later in the relationship. Suddenly, red flags start popping up everywhere, and you wonder how you missed that this guy was crazy. You didn’t miss any signs. He is not necessarily a narcissist or borderline. He doesn’t behave this way…
? Spot a Narcissist or a Psychopath on Your First Date – YouTube. A good guide to avoiding getting involved with an abuser in the first place.
